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The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice

 

Kiana Ng

Here’s the one thing that we never lose control over: our power of choice.

The most common form of powerlessness that I see, and have experienced personally, is forgetting the power of choice.

In every moment, we have the power to choose; how we react and respond, between yes and no, which direction we take, what food we eat, between fear and love, kindness vs. harm… I could go on.

We seem to have forgotten that we have the power of choice, no matter our circumstances. There’s a tendency to place so much weight on our external circumstances dictating how we live our lives and how we feel while doing it.

I’ve been in that place of victim-filled energy.

I’ve been in that place of allowing others to dictate how I feel.

I’ve been in that place of looking out for answers rather than looking in.

Depending on the situation, our power of choice can carry more weight and create more effect, but even if there’s nothing that you can do about your external circumstances, you have the power to choose how you feel about them and how you live your life while experiencing them.

Where in your life can you reclaim your power & take back control of how you’re living your life?

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How To Break Through Fear & Live The Life Of Your Dreams

How To Break Through Fear & Live The Life Of Your Dreams

How To Break Through Fear & Live The Life Of Your Dreams

 

Kiana Ng

Fear is paralyzing. Fear has the power to stop you from living the life of your dreams.

Fear has the power to stop you dead in your tracks.

 

When it comes to legitimate safety, this is a good thing. But when it comes to illegitimate safety, this is a limiting thing.

Let me explain what I mean when I say legitimate vs. illegitimate safety.

Legitimate safety refers to when your physical life is in danger and your instincts are kicking in to tell you so.

Illegitimate safety refers to when your fight or flight response turns on when you’re about to step outside of your safety net into a psychologically uncomfortable place. This could be caused from quitting your financially safe 9-5 job to chase after your dreams when there’s a really good chance that they could fail. This could be caused from jumping into a relationship amongst a whole lot of fear, for example.

For many, the fear that comes up in response to illegitimate safety is enough to hold us back from ever taking that leap.

So how do you move passed this fear to live the life of your dreams?

Try this:

  1. Make a list of all of your fears that are stopping you from making that leap.
  2. Label them 1-10 based on how fearful they are for you (10 is highest).
  3. Write out the worst case scenario that could happen by taking this leap.
  4. How would you handle this scenario if it did happen? What would happen if you didn’t know the “how”?
  5. Recognize that even amongst fear & uncertainty, you have the power to control your response to any outcome. Trust that the universe has your back and will always sort things out.
  6. If you weren’t afraid, what would you do? How would things be different?
  7. What’s the first step you need to take to go out and do the thing you’re scared of doing?
  8. Get out there & do it!

Fear is a difficult emotion. If you’re finding that you need more help & guidance on how to move forwards to create a life or relationship of your dreams, book a FREE discovery call with me here.

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My Favourite Meditation To Re-Connect To Myself

My Favourite Meditation To Re-Connect To Myself

My Favourite Meditation to Re-Connect to Myself

 

Kiana Ng

Sometimes, I need a reminder of who I am when I’m feeling lost or disconnected. If you’re confused about who you are, try out my favourite meditation to re-connect to myself below.

Either have someone read out this meditation for you, or record yourself reading it.

“Sit in a comfortable position and start by taking a few deep breaths.

Use these breaths to drop down into your body, releasing any mental chatter.

As you drop down into your body further and further, place your hands on the part of your body that represents who you are.

Breathe into that space.

Staying connected to that space, start to bring to mind the happiest memory you have of yourself.

Visualize & hold it in your mind.

Notice how you felt in this memory & describe it to yourself. How would you describe this person in your memory? How did she feel in those moments?

Your happiest moments represent who you truly are.

Whenever you lose yourself, come back to your happiest memories and remember who you were in those moments.

Take a few more breaths and a few more moments re-visiting your happiest memory.

Feel yourself re-connect to your authenticity, letting that bring you peace.

Feel the place where your palms rest and acknowledge that this is where your true self lies.

When you’re ready, slowly open your eyes.”

Now is a good time to write down all the adjectives and emotions you used to describe yourself in those memories. Write them down somewhere that you can always come back to whenever you need a reminder of yourself.

Who are you, really? Share it with me in the comments.

If you’d like to practice 1-on-1 guided meditations with me, I would love to be your guide. For more info, click here.

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What To Do When Your Life’s Spinning Out Of Control

What To Do When Your Life’s Spinning Out Of Control

What To Do When Your Life's Spinning Out Of Control

 

Kiana Ng

Fear of the unknown is a common fear for many. It’s usually created when your life feels like it’s spinning out of control.

When life hits you with curveballs, it can make it difficult to see what lays ahead. When you can’t see the destination of something, it creates a fear of the unknown because it knocks you out of your safety net.

Your safety net is what holds everything that’s comfortable and familiar.

When life tries to take us on a path of uncertainty, we try to cling to anything we can that brings us a sense of that familiarity and comfort again. We fear the outcome of what could happen if we go down a path that doesn’t have a clear solution or direction.

When you get knocked out of your safety net, your anxiety gets triggered from all of the “What if’s?”. This is because we, as human beings, don’t like not knowing! So naturally, unexpected curveballs, situations, or paths with unknown outcomes create the endless mental loop of fear and “What if’s?”.

Next time you find yourself falling into fear over the unknown and unable to loosen your grip on the things that make you feel comfortable & safe, try this:

Take a step back and let the universe lead the way.

When you consciously choose to take a step back and place your trust in the universe to lead the way, it immediately shifts you into a place where you can loosen your grip. Sometimes loosening your grip takes time and practice, but trusting in the universe’s plan & power to allow everything to work out will alleviate the fear and stress that comes up in unforeseen situations.

Are you struggling with anything right now that you just can’t seem to let go of or find peace with? Book a FREE 30 min. discovery call with me here so that we can work through it and figure out how you can loosen your grip.

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